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Tribe: A Good Read That Leaves You In Reflection

Hello again!  I cannot believe it has been over three days since I have been able to blog – too long if you ask me, but I am also still trying to get the hang of finding my blogging groove 🙂 … (Is there such thing?).  The reason for my blog absence lately?  Well, I can blame spending good times with my family (my father-in-law celebrated his 70th birthday, and we HAD to celebrate this with family, amazing food, spirits, and good laughs) … and we also decided to take an unplanned trip to Cadaques, Spain because spontaneous adventure has been in our blood lately!  Part of this adventure was not realizing the lack of Internet connection we’d be deprived, and therefore not in a position to blog while enjoying the Spanish culture.  One thing I learned from this circumstance is: where this is deprivation there is abundance in other areas; I’ll make sure I do a specific blog series on our time in Spain!  

One of the rewards of deprivation from the Internet was having the opportunity to read a book, Tribe.  I’ll tell you a little secret in that I was not an avid reader until later in my life … like 25.  In fact, I remember vividly my first autobiography of Margaret Thatcher when living in Paris, France; my professor recommended it.  It was the first (I promise I’m not exaggerating) book I couldn’t put down.  I hear you have to have such experience to finally have the love for reading.  I understood that statement, and feeling, at that moment – finally.  Since then, I’ve been very drawn to biographies, autobiographies, technology, self-help, behavior sciences, customer experience and service, and recipe books.  I don’t find I allow myself often enough to enjoy a book … but, this moment in Spain I realized the opportunity and took it!

I am going to let go a little here and be transparent with you in some self reflection, because I think it will help you better understand why I chose to read the book Tribe.  Therefore, bare with me for a moment!  I have spent many years placing most emphasis and focus on my career, and yes even when beginning and raising a young family.  You can ask probably more than half of my dearest friends and they will tell you the social gatherings I passed up … the birthday parties I didn’t attend … the conversations over the telephone I didn’t have.  I don’t share this out of pride.  But, I share these facts to help offer perspective that there was a long period when every waking second was devoted to my craft, and my work – and, in many cases my start-up.   I have thoroughly enjoyed the journey my career has taken me in the technology industry and I have absolutely no regrets with this decision.  My career was a huge source of comfort and achievement for me at an early age … during quite a traumatic and destructive era in my specific life’s story, and my career became a constant in my life, seeing me thru many happy, and trying, years.  

In some times I have been strongly questioned, and even borderline aggressively challenged, to whether I felt I neglected my family for the sake of a successful career.  Retrospect is a funny tool that can lead you to regrets, or make you realize you made decisions at the time required, with the circumstances currently in play.  I go back to my statement that I do not have any regrets to where I allowed my career to lead my attentions.  And, in my recent decision to take some time off, a large focus of my attention is on my family.  I feel I am on a unique quest to appreciate the other dimensions around me, like my family, in ways I haven’t afforded myself before.  Therefore, I feel a new seed has been planted and I have a new profound curiosity for the earliest studies and theories of the family unit.

So, why the book Tribe? I think the attraction to this book I have is it centers around the nuclei of the original tribal culture of the human, and more specifically the formulative concept of a family unit. The tribal theory revolves around the sociological concept postulating that humans are at our most basic ability to survive when living in a tribal society. (I think I’ve seen this referenced also as neotribalism for those of you that may be more familiar with this subject.).  I am not a book critic, and my blog post is not intended to serve as one.  Heck, I have never even been part of a book club!  But, what has compelled me to write this blog about this book is because I really enjoyed it to the point I couldn’t not share why.  Therefore, without further adieu, here are the top things I enjoyed about Tribe:

  1. The book is primarily focused on how humans originally evolved to act and survive in tribal behaviors and social units.  Moreover, it reminds us of the dynamics of the unit, like which behaviors were most revered by the group and those that were considered intolerable, which one could eventually assume would lead to their demise.  And as modern-day society has distressed and challenged these original understandings for what is acceptable between human-to-human, Sebastian Junder, the author, contends how modern society is destroying the fabrics to our posture for future evolution should we continue in the paths of automotous isolation versus tribalism, even in a highly technological advanced environment.
  2. I feel Sebastion Junger offers a good flow of historical references and connections throughout his writing.  Examples to this are in abundance with his writings on the history of the Native American culture, tribulations, and adaptations to modern society thru the past centuries within American, specifically.
  3. To support his views, the author supplies a variety of statistical findings and trend analysis that help support speculation to the impacts of modern society.  For anyone who has had family in war, or suffers from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), you may find some interesting facts and sections in this book related to the evolution of this circumstance.  Also, the author offers information on the varying approaches that have served highly tribal cultures versus less tribal cultures well in indoctrinating PTSD civilians back into a thriving lifestyle.
  4. This book is a short read, in my opinion, and does give you opportunity to pause in reflection.  I know I did and I appreciate the perspective I was offered after having finished reading Tribe.

Well, my fellow TBSH friends, I hope my first blog post regarding a book I finished is one you enjoyed.  I would love to hear what you think, or even better if you’ve read the book what your own thoughts are on the subject.  If you scroll down a few notches you should find the comments section – any thoughts on the subject, or to keep the conversation going would be nice!  I know I would enjoy it 🙂

Also, if you have any recommendations for other reads you think I’d enjoy – please leave them in the comments below!  Can’t wait to hear from you soon 🙂    XOXO, Bridgette

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Hello! I am a zestful and passionate tech-gal that is also doing my best to raise amazing children ... sips a Nespresso before tackling yoga ... enjoys more the sprint interval running kind of routine ... drools over travel ... is a new budding foodie and chef ... isn't afraid of a DIY, or getting hands dirty ... feels the thirst for learning should be a lifelong companion ... supports my hubby in his Ironman endeavors ... tries to spread as much happiness for others as possible ... OH, and never lets a day go by when I haven't smiled :)

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